About two weeks ago, our next door neighbor’s seven month-old son died during his afternoon nap. This was a complete shock to everyone and this has caused Jason and I to think what if this happened to one of our kids. Unimaginable. As a parent, I don’t think you ever “get over” the fact that your child has died. I think you just cope. Some of you may know that my brother died six years ago. My parents have never recovered.
Miles 3rd burt-day pawty
November 28, 2009 at 3:59 pm (348270, Blogs)
“I want a burt-day pawty!” Miles exclaims.
Planning Miles birthday party this year was a lot fun. I think a lot of it had to do with the fact that Miles was part of the party planning and this made it even more special for him, and fun for us to go shopping together and pick out stuff. We have been quite surprised with Miles these past few months. All of his words and thoughts about life are connecting so quickly; he often surprises us with his latest discoveries. Ask him when is his birthday, he confidently states, “Novemboh 22nd.” Ask him what kind of party his wants, well, he had a hard time deciding. Miles informed us that he wanted a Thomas the Tank Engine and a Lightening McQueen party. Then, a couple of days later, settled with a Thomas party. So the planning started. We went on several party websites to find the perfect Thomas pull pinata. What’s a pull pinata? Well, it’s the kind you don’t beat with a bat. Strings hang from the pinata (about 20 of them) and each string is pulled one at a time by each child. At the end, when all the strings are pulled, the pocket comes loose and all the treats and candies fall from the bottom of the pinata. Tons of chaos and tons of fun for the kids…and parents too! Miles and I went to a party store to get all the fixings for a Thomas party. It’s incredible the amount of party paraphernalia one can purchase. We decided to make the party as simple as possible. No crazy decorations but 20 helium Thomas balloons, plates, napkins, and cups. It was a perfect party for 30+people. The adults left full (we made brunch for kids and parents, but parents all know that kids don’t eat at parties except for the cake) and the kids left full with sugar. I’m sure every parent says this, but I can’t believe our son is three years old. It seems like it was yesterday he was jumping up and down in my belly and today he is doing somersaults across the floor. We are so blessed to have a healthy and rambunctious little guy.
The Look
November 25, 2009 at 9:57 pm (Blogs)
Do you remember the “look” your parents gave you when you were doing something out of line? You know, the look that meant you were in deep doo-doo but they couldn’t yell at you right then and there because they were in front of other people, but once you got home they we’re gonna scream at you!?! Yeah, that look. I remember very clearly that look from my mom and dad, and it was not good either. But now that I am a parent, I can totally see why they had the look. I, myself, have started that same look with my children. I’ll have to take a picture of what that look is, but it’s something like this: chin and face pointed down and head slightly titled to the right, eyebrows raised, and sharp beady eyes targeted right at your child. Miles knows this look pretty well and shapes up after I throw him this look. I don’t use it that often, but when I do, I mean business. As for Lila, she’ll take a second look at me, and then laughs at my face. I don’t think Lila really gets it yet. It’s one of those nonverbal language gestures you start to learn at around the terrible 2 age.
Sometimes I get this look back from Miles.
The difference between boys and girls, and mommies and daddies
November 15, 2009 at 9:55 pm (Blogs)
“Baby!” Lila exclaims when she sees a dolly or a baby in a stroller.
“TRUCK!” Miles shouts when he sees a dump truck or a cement truck on the road.
“CHASE!” Jason calls out and both Miles and Lila are off chasing daddy.
“Let’s bake cookies!” I’ll say with Miles and Lila sitting next to their toy kitchen.
If you give Miles a doll, he’ll hold it awkwardly. Almost as if he doesn’t know what it is or what to do with it. Give Lila a truck and she’ll put a dolly in the driver seat. It’s amazing the difference between boys and girls and mommies and daddies.


Say whuut?!
November 4, 2009 at 4:14 pm (Blogs, Videos)
While driving to a friend’s house today, Miles looks out the car window at a field and points. He says very innocently, “Mama, where’s the bong?” Screeeech, uh, say whuuut?! He asks again, “Mama, where’s the bong?” I scratch my head. Hmm, maybe Jason and I had a conversation once about a bong. Not sure when we ever had that conversation, but it could have occurred and I just forgot. This is how our conversation goes:
Me: The bong?
Miles: The bomb
Me: The bomb?
Miles: The BOMB!
Me: Say it again, Miles. The bomb or The bong?
Miles: He is now frustrated and irate with me b/c I can’t understand him. THE BOMB!!!!!!
Me: Miles, I am having such a hard time understanding you. I’m sorry! Say it again, but say it slow this time.
Miles: THE BARN!!!!!
Me: Ohhhh, THE BARN! You are asking me WHERE IS THE BARN on the field? Yes, okay, I understand you now.
Miles: BIG smile on his face.
Most parents are able to decode approximately 70 percent of what their child says. The other 30 percent is “Yeah, sure, whatever you said kid.” Miles started saying his first words at around 10 months. We remember clearly: light, duck, and dog. By two years old, he was speaking 4 word sentences and had around 250 words, and by three, there is actually some social reciprocity. Most of the time we understand what Miles is trying to say, but there are just some words, mostly words with an “R” in it, we have the most difficulty understanding. Is it “party” or “potty”? Is it a “clapper” or a “crapper”?
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At 18 months old, Lila has only a few words. Here is Lila humming her favorite song:
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